Sorry... my blog may be borderline innappropriate, and by "sorry", I mean, "you're welcome".
9/30/2005
Yeah, I don't know what to title this...
The movie was so stinking funny. Crystal and I laughed so loud. There was a couple right in front of us that sat there in stoic silence throught he whole movie... you could tell they did not like it. All I am saying is WHY go to a movie named "The 40 year old Virgin" if you are going to be offended easily? They got up and walked out in the middle of it - very angry. People like that annoy the heck out of me.
On our way back to the car we stopped and Toby's bar again and had another drink - - why the heck not?
It was a fun night.
9/28/2005
"Working on the Marriage"

We rented The Wedding Guest. It's an OK movie, but there was a really good line that was toward the end of the movie. This guy Nick (the wedding guest) is talking to the groom who is having second thought about marrying his bride because she divulged her affair with his best friend just moments before they were to walk down the isle. He said: "If you know her Sh*# and she knows yours and at the end of the day you'd rather give up than try, then nothing is ever going to be worth it".
Isn't that the truth though? I mean, that is what marriage is all about. Is it worth it? Some days I might say no, (lol), but it is important and totally worth trying for. I am thankful that I have a forgiving husband and that I am just as forgiving. He knows aaaaall my sh*# and I know his.
Good movie. Good point.
9/27/2005
Half-Nekkid Thursday

This is one of my husbands tatoos. It is the Japanese symbol for JOY. He got it on our honeymoon. I told him getting my name tatooed on his body was so white trash - - he just laughed and said that if something were to ever happen to us, he would just tell people that it was the symbol for verility. Nice. So, here you go. Have a happy Thursday!
9/26/2005
Adoption Day
Sept 25, 2005
In the courtroom (Sara and jin had NO IDEA what was going on)Wow - it is finally here - - the rest of our lives... together! Today we finally finished our adoption. It was an awesome moment when we stood before the judge and he sealed our future. I took a deep breath, exhaled and begin to breathe lighter air that was sweeter than ever before. No more rocks in my stomach. No more visits to the DHS building and courtroom. Today was filled with many tears from my family - but none were mine. I was too giddy. No, I just smiled and smiled. All I could think about was what was next... LIFE - - normal life. Normal family with normal situations. People do not realize what a precious thing it is to have that normalcy. But now it is MINE... ALLLLLLLL MINE! Monty and I are so happy and relieved. LIFE IS GOOD AND GETTING BETTER EVERY DAY. My only wish was that my Mom could have been there to see it - but my faith tells me that she was... In celebration of this day - a few pictures of the Ketch family 6: Monty and Joy, Rikki Joy Lynn, Amber Audrey, Sara Faith and Jinnifer Janna Kathleen Ketch
9/22/2005
Happy HNT - BEEP BEEP!

Wow - It's already Thursday. I have not blogged in a week. Well, this weeks HNT pic is two adorable belly buttons! My daughters, to be specific.
I love their belly buttons - I love to poke them and say "beep-beep" just like my Mom and Daddy did to me - - it just reminds me how wonderful it is that I have these two awesome little girls - and how they belong to me.
Loooooove those babies!
9/15/2005
Half-Nekkid Thursday!
9/11/2005
9/11 - Never get apathetic - read and remember!
-J
Never forget.......
Words do not give any justice to what happened on this day, 4 years ago. Nevertheless, never forget:
-The 3,000+ people who died that day, and the thousands upon thousands of family members left in the devastation of losing their loved one.
-The people who won our first victory of this war on Flight 93. "Let's Roll."
-The destruction, cleanup, and even rebuilding of iconic buildings. The rebuilding that lets those bastards know that we are not going away and we will win.
-The bravery shown by not just police officers, firemen, EMT's, but "ordinary" people who did extraordinary things that day. Now, that's what makes America shine.
-The outpouring of help made by all Americans. Whether it was giving blood, donating money, whatever.....It all mattered.
-The American Flags which flew from everywhere they could be. Also, the American spirit that arose from this nation.
-The 343 firemen who died that day. They had to know that they weren't going to make it. That is my definition of courage and sacrifice.
-The pictures of that day. Check out these. LOOK and remember... do you remember how MAD it made you? How helpless you felt? How exposed our country was because we were generous enough to let these "men" into our country? NEVER FORGET! http://256.com/gray/thoughts/2001/20010912/pictures/attack/
-The 18, 19, and 20 year old soliders, sailors, marines and airmen all over the world that are making sure that nothing like this ever happens again.
-The clearness of that day. It was a beautiful day that was made ugly. It was an innocent morning, just like the day only a few years before, when we were bombed right here in Oklahoma City. Do you remember that feeling??
These are just a few things, and I know that I'm leaving so much out. Please add what you remember, or want others to never forget.
9/10/2005
Going down to the Casina
Anyhoo, people have no sense of boundaries at casinos. Now granted, I know that we are not at The Venetion or Caesar's, we are at a small casino on Indian land, but these places are cramped. Well, I have decided that there should be an etiquette - a kind of unspoken set of rules among casino goers. I "loathe entirely" these people who feel that they need to stand beside the slot machine of their friend/spouse and in doing so, shove their arse into your space...
I go back to the movie Dirty Dancing (the movie my husband hates and I adore for many reasons, namely one) - when Johnny tells Baby "this is my dance space, this is your dance space, you don't come into mine, I don't come into yours".
FELLOW CASINO PATRONS: When I am at a slot machine feeding it my money I am basically renting that space for my said amount of time - it is MY slot machine space - you stay in YOUR space. What is the freaking issue with just standing BEHIND your friends chair? OH - and "excuse me" will get you really far as well when you bump into someone with a full cup of hot coffee.
Tonight, this guy felt that it was OK to rest his Kolos (as we say in Greece) on my cousin's side tonight as he watched his wife blow a $20 on the machine next to her. And there was this other guy that felt that it was ok to hit on me as I played a nickel slot... all up in my space and everything. What is wrong with people??? Gross.
We did have fun overall... I don't mean to sound like a drag. I really like going to the casino. As long as you don't expect to come out with hands full of loot you can really have a good time.
Ok, I am done... Have I bored you enough? I just had to vent. People can be so freaking rude. So what pet peeves do you have about people? Anyone??
9/08/2005
Bandwagon - here I come - jump on with me!
9/02/2005
Dang it, I've been tagged
10 years ago – September 1995, 18 years old, one year out of highschool and I was living with my boyfriend Dusty in an apartment in north Tulsa. This was the month we broke up and I moved to Oklahoma City. It was a time of extreme change for a girl who HATES and FEARS change. My heart was broken.
5 years ago – September of 2000, Working in education with a whole lot of self-important people. I was also working on my college degree. My husband and I were trying to get pregnant... again.
1 year ago – September 2004, Working at the hardest job of my life - - motherhood. I was a stay at home mom to 4 daughters and I was celebrating the start of school! September was the last full month that I had with my Mom before she died in October. Momma and I were planning our fall flowers to plant and already talking about Sara and Jin's birthday parties in October and making plans for Thanksgiving. God, I miss her.
Yesterday – September 1, Had a terrible day. Slept in - woke up still exhausted, had a feeling that things were not going to be kosher with the kids. Got one of those calls that you LOOOOOVE to get from your kids principle - and she told me that Amber skipped 3rd hour. The rest of the day was spent dealing with my crazy daughter. We also had Amber and Rikki's open house at school. I was so proud of my Rikki Joy Lynn.
5 snacks I enjoy – Cheddar Chese and triscuits, Braunsweiger and club crackers, ice cream, green apples, fresh baby carrots and broccoli and veggie dip. As an aside, can I just say that sweet Iced Tea should be a food group? Thanks...
5 songs I know all the words to – I am a singer, I know the words to thousands of songs. These are the songs that either my kids make me listen to constantly, or I have heard recently and gotten stuck in my head; Kiss (Prince), Bicycle (Queen), Father Figure (George Michael), Take a look at me now (Phil Collins), the B.C. Clarks Jewelry theme song. Am I stuck in the 80's right now or WHAT?
5 things I would do with $100 million dollars – Start a charity for foster parents and foster children. Buy a 5 bedroom house- pay cash. Repay my parents and in-laws for years of loans, pay off their homes and cars as well. Pay off all of my bills! Set up a trust for my children and my neices and nefews as well as my cousins young children. Invest the rest for my golden years. Is htat more than 5? well, deal with it!
5 Places I would run away to – Greece, Scotland, New Zealand, Bora Bora, DISNEY WORLD! LOL
5 things I would never wear – Camoflauge (HAVE WE NOT DISCUSSED THIS?!), tube tops, hot pants, stirrup pants, bikini - that's more for the general public rather than myself. LOL
5 Favorite TV Shows – 24 baby! I am counting the second till I get my Jack back, CSI, Will and Grace - I am a closet fan, Young and the Restless, Bold and the Beautiful.
5 Biggest Joys – Waking my baby in the morning. She is the happiest morning person! Buying a new outfit at Lane Bryant. Sleeping under a heavy down comforter in a dark, cold room. Seeing my girls do the things that we have taught them to do. Seeing my family (brothers, their families, etc.) live in the heritage that my parents created for us.
5 favorite toys – ummm, it's green..., My computer, my cell phone, my dvd player... do boy toys count? lolol
Am I done now? Now it's YOUR TURN!
8/12/2005
ARMAND ASANTE IS A BIG OLD JERK... AND I MEAN OLD.
Ok... so here is where Joy bitches... MR. ASANTE - You are shooting a low budget vampire flick in an Oklahoma mall. You have no "people" surrounding you - no big body guard named Guido - NADA. You are no Al Pacino - no Sean Connery. Your last movie was a made for TV movie of The Oddesey, and while although very good - was only on TV. I will give you Mambo Kings. I liked that movie, but quite frankly, you have NO ROOM to be snippy and hateful to potential fans. It's people like us who make you mildly popular, but its "stars" like you that will never be as big as Brando, Pacino, Connery, etc. Get off your stupid Trojan horse and swallow your pride. We know you were lost in the mall - had you been nice we could have told you where to go - - other than hell. Oh, and by the way - have a nice day.
8/04/2005
Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain!
I swear, sometimes I feel like we are walking around in a Wizard of Oz world being run by some old coot behind the curtain. You can make plans, you can have back-up plans for the plans - and they can all backfire with one person telling you "oh no - you must bring me the broomstick of the wicked witch of the west for your plan to ever get done. You know what I say? I say - PAY NO ATTENTION TO THE MAN BEHIND THE CURTAIN.
Dang - - no more Wizard of Oz for me
Jennie Rikkola-Prince - -The Coolest Chickadee in the World
Eleven years have passed, and we have kept semi-sorta in touch by the miracle of e-mail. She's gotten married (to Mark, her "prince") and had two of the most exquisite daughters I have ever seen (Taylor and Chloie). And she just had the most handsome little devil (Gavin) and still looks dynamite in a swimsuit (biotch!) Me, as you well know, am married (9 years in 22 days) and had 4 daughters - (equally exquisite, LOL) We are grown-ups. We are wives - -WE are PARENTS!
SHE IS STILL THE COOLEST CHICK I KNOW. She is freckled as ever and every freckle is sexy as hell. That's what makes her cool.
She has bright red hair that looks like she was born with it. Thats what makes her cool.
She can be so laid back and non-chalent. That is what makes her cool.
She has such fashion sense and savvy that you can't help but stare. Thats what makes her cool!
It's her self-confidence that make her the coolest though. People want to be around Jen and she is the most fun no matter is you are at the "cassina" staring at a slot machine or sitting in her parents living room talking. (BTW, it still feels like home when you walk in the door. AND her Dad is the coolest ever as well - I think her parents rubbed off all their coolness on her). I spent a day and a half with her and I wish she would move back to Owasso from North Carolina so that I could be close to her again. It was instantly like she never left, like I had seen her every day - not 9 whole years ago.
Being her friend makes me cool. She has no idea the impact that she made on me. Our friendship defined a huge part of my teenage years. She has no clue how much I miss her in my life.
It's great how God puts people in our lives when we need them most, and teaches you something about yourself every time.SO, here's to Jennie - undoubtedly the coolest chickadee I know. May we be friends forever....CHEERS... and
Amen
Random thought
From Lightening Bugs Butt Blog
7/25/2005
I'M MEEEEELLLLLTING.... MEEEEELTING.....MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLLTING!
Wow... I guess I am the Wicked Witch of the West. LORD, help me!
7/13/2005
Gimme The Mike! Oklahoma
After all of the hours of the show taping, I was standing there as they were tallying each person's score and I thought to myself "At the end of the day - win or lose - I really had the most fun out here doing this.
Too bad that you are just going to have to watch the show to see if I won... 0:)
My outfit was so very cool! I was singing a country song - Independance Day, by Martina McBride, so I could'nt just walk out there in a dress. I bought new jeans and used a jean jacket that I had for a year. Here is the cool part... I went to bed one night just thinking and thinking about HOW to dress this oufit up for TV. The next day I was driving down the road and my cousin Jennie popped into my head. She is an artist - a fantastic artist that paints on pretty much anything, boots, jeans, jackets - as well as the canvas. I asked her to paint something on my outfit and she came up with the most awesome thing. She painted a HUGE treble clef on tbe back of my jacket in Gold (she know me well) and down the right pant leg some music notes dropping to the ankle.
She went to bed that night and had a dream. She said as she was working on my coat, my Mom walked up to her, looking healthy as ever and said "Jennie, this is great. Please tell Joy not to worry, I am her guardian angel and I have been watching over her. I am going to make sure she wins." Jennie woke up and said out loud "wings!" The next morning she painted angel wings on either side of the treble clef and replaced the flag on the music note with an angel wing. She also put a small treble clef with the angel wings on the front pocket of the coat. Everyone went crazy over it. Jennie did a wonderful job, but it was also my Mom working in my life once again, because.................wait - I cannot tell you - you have to watch the show! Let me just put it this way for you - - it's really goooooood - and Momma was right.
KWTV Channel 9, Monday, July 18th at 7pm.
http://www.newsok.com/gimmethemike/
6/28/2005
Great Day in my Life

Today a wonderful thing happened. I was told that we will get to adopt our daughters! Two years ago this week was when all of this started. They told us it would take 6 months at that time. We actually believed them. LOL. Was it worth it? Absolutely.
Everything seems brighter today - food tastes better, the sunset seemed more spectacular, I look at my husband and love him all the more, I look at my children and know that I will never have to worry about them being taken away, abused and neglected ever again. I have a feeling that I will sleep better tonight than I have in quite some time. The 2 year old awful feeling in the pit of my stomach is completly gone.
God is good AAAAALLLLLLL the time, and HIS timing is perfect. Thank you God for teaching me that, even if it was the hard way.
Life is really good. So much for the crappy depression of last week!
6/23/2005
Where does the time go?
My oldest two daughters are at church camp [insert the hallelujah chorus here] and we have had a relativly quiet week. It is amazing how getting the two teenage girls out of the house will completly change the dynamic of the house. Sara is sleeping in Rik and Ambers room (which will totally tick them off - muuhahahahahha) and it is so much more QUIET in this house. But we sure do miss them. I cannot wait to pick them up tomorrow! I am sure I will hear the unfolding drama of the week. Who likes who - who's "going" with who, etc. What does that mean anyway? Where are they going? NOWHERE. I "went" with quite a few boys whe I was their age - Bodie, Brian, Larry, Russ, Larry (again) and it was not until I was a sophomore that I actually went anywhere with a boy. Actually, That second time around with Larry, he had his Mom's car and we would go to Lake Overholser. oooooooohhhhhhh.
Whoa - I was out on another rant just now. Talk me down, man - TALK ME DOWN!
My husband is driving me crazy. He keeps interupting me! This is me "writing and being hateful" Eddie!
Only he will get that.
I miss Tulsa. I miss the metropolitan feel of it. People are just different there. Can life be so different only 100 miles away from here? I miss my Mom. She's been gone 9 months now, and I still feel as if I can just call her up.
I miss singing every Sunday in the band - I never should have taken a month off. Now I cannot get back in. I've been black-balled. It's just as well, I think I am too controversial for them anyway. Geez, it's not like I am Kelly freaking Osborne. Why, I ask you, do people think that every time the church doors are open you HAVE to be there?
I am going through all of this change and I HATE CHANGE. My husband and I have been in a constant state of transition for almost 2 years now...
I guess I am depressed.






